Twenty years later, the work I do is the work I needed then.
What you may or may not know about me is that I’ve spent over twenty years doing this work — in companies, on retreats, one-to-one with women across three continents. What I’ve trained in is precise and unusual. The results speak for themselves.
But what I’m sure you don’t know about me is what I had to walk away from before any of it became possible.
I spent thirteen years at Oracle. A salary that made leaving look foolish, company car, flexibility, generous benefits. From the outside, it looked like exactly the kind of life you’re supposed to want.
And I knew that. Which was the problem. How do you justify wanting to leave a life that, by every reasonable measure, you should be grateful for?
We have a tendency, when we’ve built something that works — that functions, that pays, that people admire — to convince ourselves that the discomfort is the problem. That if we just adjusted something at the edges, managed better, rested more, found the right holiday, it would pass.
I had that tendency for years.
Then one ordinary Tuesday, walking across an open-plan office, something shifted. Not a thought. A sensation. A quiet internal pressure that said: this is not it.
I didn’t know what it was. I only knew, with a certainty that bypassed everything rational, that I couldn’t keep walking in the same direction.
I took redundancy. I went to Turkey on a yoga retreat — not because I expected answers, but because I needed to stop. On the last night, lying in a treehouse unable to sleep, something finally let go. I woke the next morning and the relentless internal noise had stilled. For the first time in years, I felt recognisably myself.
That began twenty years of genuine exploration — the study of how identity forms and reforms beneath the surface of a life, and the practical disciplines that work with it. Each thing I trained in taught me the same lesson differently: the answers are already inside. They’ve simply been drowned out by the noise of performing a life built for everyone else.
Which is why I do this work now. Not because I have a system to sell you. Because I know what it costs to ignore that signal — and I know what becomes possible when someone finally helps you hear it clearly.
The tools I work with are precise and unusual. But they have one thing in common — they follow you, not the other way around. Every question moves in the direction of what you’ve just said. Every session goes where the live material actually is.
My job isn’t to deliver answers from outside. It’s to ask the kind of questions that allow what you already know to come into focus. Each question follows what you’ve just said. Each session goes where the live material actually is — not where a method says it should be.
I don’t advise. I don’t fix. I create the conditions in which you find your own clarity — so what you walk away with is genuinely yours.
The funny part is that Rosaleen never advised me — she listened and questioned. After just three months, I found myself in the most unexpected state. I could clearly see my goals and objectives. Today I am literally one of the happiest people in the world. I finally found my way.
A Radiant Life Conversation is forty-five minutes. No obligation. Just show up as you are.